Who determines our Future? Us or Peer Pressure?

2016.12.06
Who determines our Future? Us or Peer Pressure?

When we heard the word future, what is the first thing that comes to our mind? Do we create our own path? Or do we create it out of peer pressure? When we were in school, people will always told us that we can be who we want to be. But as we grow up, society will always force us to choose a path that is considered to be better. This kind of peer pressure ended up making us question about our own decision, whether or not it is good enough. The people who experience this may not realize it, but this is indeed an issue. With peer pressure from friends, society or even their own parents, students these days will have to deal with this kind of problem.

How is it a problem? You may ask. It all started at a very young age. Do you still remember when your teacher asked you, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” If your class is like everyone else, I bet you my bank account most of your classmate will say “Doctor”. Why though? Why didn’t they say “I want to be a singer!” a zookeeper? Or even teacher. The explanation is simple. Popularity! Look around you how many child vitamin brands uses a child dressing up as doctor or policeman on their packaging? Because it is so well-known and has become main stream in society, many parents will the recommend it to their children, thinking it is superior compared to other jobs, because of its popularity.

Children on the other hand not knowing any other option, just tend to go with it. At least until they figured out on their own interest. Now this is where it becomes a problem. When their parents told them to have a certain job that isn’t what they want to be, it subconsciously put pressure on them. They worried that their own choices doesn’t meet up with their parent’s expectation. Making them feel they need to go with their parent’s option instead of their own. It’s not much of an issue when the child eventually agrees with their parents, but it is a problem if they regret it later in life and become unhappy with their choices in life.

Some of the real life examples are a lot closer than you think. For example, choose some 10th grade high school students. They usually will have to choose between 3 majors in High School, Language, Social or Science. Some students already know what they want to choose, while others choose something to fulfill their parent’s wishes. It’s like they have no control over their own life. At a glance, it doesn’t seem like much of a big deal. Kids obeying their parents, what’s wrong about it? Isn’t that what’s best to us, but that’s doesn’t mean they should blocked out their kid’s own choices especially the one that made big impact on their life’s.

But why do we feel this way? Why do we feel this peer pressure and other people or societies judgment? One theory goes that it’s human nature. We’d feel a bit strange and insecure when we go the opposite way. And we feel the need to re pay our parents hard work of raising us by living up to their expectation of us.

I this it’s fine when we want to go with our parent’s choices. There should be no problem when we eventually love what we do. Still, one thing to remember is this is our life and we should be the one who makes the path for our future, not pressure or society. Though it is wise to stick to our parent’s advice that could even lead us to the future that we desire, it’s best to keep their advice as just an advice and not let them make the decision for us. It is hard to figure out what we actually want to do, but when you are in doubt keep finding your own interest, take a risk, keep experimenting, don’t be afraid to fail or even take psychological test to make sure the future you want is the one that perfectly fits you, because in the end you are the one who is living your own life.


About the Author:

Nasya Ayudianti
Nasya Ayudianti R, Frontrunner 12

Hi! My name is Nasya Ayudianti Ramadhani, I’m 15 years old from Jakarta, Indonesia. I’m a sophomore student in High school. I go to 65 Senior High School in west Jakarta. I was born on the 22nd of November 2001. I’ve been studying in EF Permata Hijau for about 10 years now. My hobbies are writing, browsing the internet, watching movies and YouTube videos. I also have a YouTube channel, it’s called Nasya Ayudianti. I can sing and play a little bit of guitar. I really wish I could go to London one day.