Living in today’s society, I have noticed that people are more than reluctant to give up easily on tasks and in life. It is unfortunate that at my young age the phrase “I hate my life” is used too nonchalantly; often used without understanding the true meaning. I do not understand how an individual could hate their own life, because life is what you make of it. However, after further consideration, I believe that each individual has a different definition to the word hate. I believe that the word “hate” is a very strong word. Nonetheless, to some people the word “hate” may not have such a strong impact. I have often thought deeply about why people would hate their lives. I have narrowed down to these possible situations: family situations, self-doubt, and major life changes.
Going through a family situation such as a divorce or a death in the family may lead individuals feeling empty; therefore, making them feel as their life is worthless. However, as a Christian I believe that any suffering is an opportunity for individuals to become closer with God and to be able to feel his love and presence during one of the hardest times of our life. When we are able to do this we will realize that we are never alone. However, for those that do not believe in God, I also believe that through time all wounds will be healed. For every sunset there will be a sunrise!
Another reason for why people may hate their life is self-doubt. Many individuals want to be accepted by a specific group or society. Therefore, they put a lot of pressure on themselves to act and look a specific way. Many pressure themselves to the breaking point of self-pity and self-doubt. In addition to peer pressure, many individuals also suffer severely from the fear of failing, myself included. However, a trusted friend of mine reminded me that life is about not giving up. I realized then, that in order to succeed in life you must believe in yourself. The only way you can fail in life is by not trying. We must realize that we are our own unique person that possesses our own special talents. I believe that when we are able to realize this, no matter how big or small the pressures of life may try to break us, it will not hold us down.
Lastly, I believe that change is probably one of the biggest reasons why people would hate their life. Although all changes are not necessarily bad, sometimes people can’t see the good in a change until later on. Though changes can be either big or small, I believe the experience is the same. Some people might go through changes such as moving to a different country and some might have harder changes such as being bullied. Either way, in each situation the individual suffers emotionally. I have a friend that was bullied when she was six years old. She told me that many times she cursed those bullies but sometimes she suffered emotionally alone, therefore, leading her to hate her life. I realized from her stories that each of individual would handle her situation differently. I as a tomboy would not let anyone bully me, through words or physical contact. Therefore, I do not share the same emotions as my friend. This reassures my prediction that everyone has a different way of handling things as they have a different way of defining a word.
Nonetheless, no matter how big or small life problems and pressures may be thrown at you, I believe that there is always a silver lining. We are in control of our own lives, therefore, we control whether we want to be happy or not. With negative thoughts we will never see the beauty life has in store for us. There are many people in this world that are unwillingly suffering, therefore, for us to complain about our lives and to simple say ‘I hate my life’ with times get a bit difficult is an insult to those who are truly suffering. There are many resources and communities that can help us in any situations, such as talking to your friends, talking to your families, getting involve with communities… etc. I believe that sometimes life becomes hard to make us stronger, so before giving up and saying ‘I hate my life’ I believe that we owe it to ourselves to first ask ‘what can I do to make this better!’
About the Author:
Aida Aqiyla, Trailblazers 12
Hi! I’m a 12 year old student who is currently studying at Bina Nusantara Simprug (Binus Simprug). I love to read comics such as manga (Japanese comic), watch YouTube, play computer games, and much more. I learn English at EF Tebet
I am known to be an easy-going, hyperactive, and friendly person. I enjoy making new friends and being adventurous. The majority of my friends are boys, since I enjoy playing sports. I guess you could call me a tomboy. At times, I enjoy creative writing. I find that creative writing can be both interesting and fun. It amazes me at times how creative I can be. I hope you enjoy my article!