Have you ever wondered what it feels like to live alone? I know that most people don’t want to live all by themselves; however, I’m sure that most teenagers who live in a big family have wondered about this more than once.
How can I be so sure? Well, I’ve had that experience myself. Now, imagine you are a part of a big family. You have two perfect parents and maybe two or three siblings, plus grandparents, cousins, maids and pets. Obviously, your house is a very crowded place. I think in Indonesia this is a fairly common situation.
Now, let’s take a closer look. Obviously, you love your parents very much. But as a teenager, you will have a rebellious side and sometimes it’s just too much. Too many lectures, too many rules, too much of your parent’s paranoia; sometimes it’s just unbearable. As a teenager, you don’t want those things.
The next problem is your siblings. I sometimes feel envious towards my friends who don’t have any siblings. Now, I know most people think it’s sad to be alone and pity children with no siblings, but at least they don’t need to worry about their brothers stealing their stuff! Or having to fight over TV programmes and other unimportant stuff. I really wish I was an only child at those times.
It’s awful if you happen to be the older sibling. Believe me, I know your struggle. You often get blamed for things that happen to your younger brothers and sisters, even when you haven’t done anything wrong. As the older one you are supposed to be the patient, thoughtful one, which gets really annoying at times.
It’s also not great if you are the youngest. Be prepared for constant teasing from your older siblings. Sometimes they will just make fun of you, but sometimes they will be really mean.
Now, if you happen to live with your grandparents as well, you will need to be extra patient. Sometimes they have bad hearing, so you might have to repeat yourself many times before they hear you. Occasionally they will lose their glasses and you will have to search all over the house for them. Even worse, sometimes you might have to wash their fake teeth. Yuck! It makes me feel sick just thinking about it.
All of these examples are based on true stories. Be honest, I’m sure you also face the same things sometimes. I often wonder when I will have my own house. I sometimes wish I could go to college as soon as possible, so I could escape and live on my own.
However, I know that when the time does come to leave, I will miss every single person in my family, however annoying they are. I’ll miss my parents’ scolding. I’ll miss the warmth of my grandparents. I’ll miss my pets. I’ll miss the nanny who cares for me. I’ll miss the house I grew up in. I’ll miss my siblings who have always been there for me.
The point is it may seem wonderful to live alone at times; to be independent, to get some peace and quiet, to escape all the problems of living in a big family. However, it’s so much better to live together with your loved ones. Home really is where the heart is.
About the Author:
Cornelia Talita Mulyani Panjaitan, Frontrunner
Hi, my name is Cornelia Talita Mulyani Panjaitan. I’m a 13-year-old student and I’m a student at EF Bogor Pajajaran. My birthday is on January 31st. In my free time I enjoy reading, writing, acting, playing the piano and singing. My dream is to be a doctor, an actress or a writer.