Bullying Around Us

2017.04.05
Bullying Around Us

Have you ever noticed that with every year of school comes a new issue related to bullying? Bullying has been a problem for a long time and it is getting worse every year. Surveys have shown that every day, more than 150,000 students skip school because they are afraid they will be bullied. Bullying has extended far beyond school and has stepped to a more pathetic stage. Throwing back to the most severe bullying case spread on the internet, The Suicide of Amanda Todd, a teenage girl from Canada who experienced bullying when she was in 7th grade. She had recieved both cyber and physical bullying, even tried to commit suicide. Then, she posted a video on Youtube entitled My Story : Struggling, bullying, suicide and self-harm and went viral after her death on October 2012.

Unwanted aggression comes in many forms such as threats, harshness, coercity and perceived power imbalance. When these aggressions are repeated, they become bullying. There are currently two modes of bullying: direct and indirect. Direct bullying happens in the presence of the victim while indirect bullying happens behind the victim’s back, usually in the form of rumors. Within the two modes of bullying lies the four types: physical, verbal, cyber and social. Bullying happens in one way or another almost everywhere there is social interaction.

There are at least three roles in every bullying situation and all parties involved suffer the effects. First, victims of bullying are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, loneliness, health issues, a decrease in academic achievement and may even skip classes or drop out of school. Second, the actual bullies may engage in violent and risky behaviors well into adulthood; some of them may experience abuse of drugs and alcohol, get into fights, have criminal convictions and be abusive to their family and spouses. Third, the bystander—the one who witnesses bullying—they are likely to suffer from mental and health problems, and turn to addictive behaviors such as smoking, drug abuse and alcoholism.

Perhaps the greatest and most unfortunate examples of the effects of bullying is when the victims decide to take revenge in extremely violent ways. It has been found that in twelve of the fifteen school shooting cases during the 1990s, the shooters had a history of being bullied.

Bullying is most prevalent in schools, especially middle and high school. Indonesia has a higher bullying rate than the rest of Asia. One in three females and 1 out of 4 males in Indonesia have experienced bullying which means females report bullying more often than males. Shouldn’t the females be the ones who are supposed to be protected the most?

The reasons for bullying usually lie in the small differences that make people different from each other; mostly on the basis of race, tribe, color, gender, religion, sexuality or ability. Bullies will exaggerate these differences and then find the victim’s weaknesses in order to prove they are somehow inferior.

Bullying is easier now than ever and is getting more severe with the advent of the internet. Internet rumors can spread in seconds. It is easier for bullies to target victims over the internet in what is called cyber-bullying.

Bullying needs to be stopped and prevented. It should be a parent’s responsibility to guide and teach their children to be a good friend with everyone. The schools themselves should also develop anti-bullying circles and make students aware of the dangers of bullying. They should give bullies the appropriate discipline and provide rehabilitation for victims.

In conclusion, bullying is just the ego beating in ourself. It is a senseless act that may lead to extreme violence and cause trauma for everyone involved. Perhaps self-control is the best way to stop and prevent bullying. As teenagers we have to think forward, think about the big dreams we want to achieve and about the future we will face.

 

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Annisa Anindya

Annisa Anindya, Bogor Yasmin, Frontrunner

Hi, I’m Annisa Anindya. I’m a 15-year-old student from EF Bogor Taman Yasmin. Thank you for reading my writing, I accept criticsm and suggestion through my personal email annisaanindys@gmail.com